Wednesday, February 25, 2009

My Husband Scares Me...

Or at least his driving does and frankly, I don't know what to do.

He is 62 and just seems to be moving in slow motion.

My husband has always been a very cautious (almost overly so) driver and I certainly can't complain about that.

Lately though, his driving has gotten frightening and honestly, I'm afraid he is going to get us both killed.

Yet, I am very reluctant to say anything.

You know how defensive people can be about their driving.

It is your freedom and your independence.

I don't know what is going on.

He drives SOOOOOOOO slow that if we are on many of the two-lane highways we have around here, he will have a line of cars behind us.

And if we are on the Interstate, he barely gets up to 50 mph (the minimum speed limit if 45 mph and the max in most places is 70 mph).

We get blown off the road and cars pass us constantly.

Yesterday, he pulled in front of a sand truck (these things are MONSTERS). He was barely going 35 and this huge thing had to put its air brakes on to slow down.

Then, on the way out to the golf course, when the speed limit opened up to 55mph, he was still going barely 45 and a huge SUV and a logging truck (another MONSTER) had to pass us on a narrow two-lane highway.

The logging truck was blowing its air horn the whole if to say "GET OUT OF THE WAY, YOU %$^*^#%()^%$!!!!!".

It is REALLY worrying me

HE is clearly OBLIVIOUS to it.

(Other people who have driven with him have mentioned it.)

At first I thought it was about his old old falling apart car but now I'm wondering how much of it is him.

Lately, I have done just about anything I can to TACTFULLY get out of driving with him and take my own car.

"Oh..I have some other errands to run, so I'll just meet you there."

"No, I don't feel like going today, you go by yourself, I'll just stay home."

It is worrisome, frightening and a VERY difficult subject to tackle but I sure don't want to get run off the road or worse.

I don't know what to do.


salemslot9 said...

if things are that bad
you could sit down
and have a heart to heart
talk with him
tell him how you feel
being a good listener
is important, too
if he wants to reply
he's your husband after all
you love each other

Leigh said...

I think you're going to have to have a talk with him about it. Maybe there's some reason-eyesight, or something else. Going too slow can be just as hazardous as speeding.

Good luck with your talk.

:) Leigh